Do not ask, jokingly or otherwise, when the recently married woman you know is having kids.

It might have been easy for you to conceive.

You might have had a perfect pregnancy.

Your labor and delivery might have been a walk in the park on a warm slightly overcast day.

You might know 15 couples who are happily expecting.


If you don’t know the woman’s fertility history, and let’s face it, it’s none of your goddamned business, anyway, it’s rude and often hurtful to ask such a question.

“When are you having kids?” seems so innocent.

You know what answer I have?

The only one possible, “I don’t know!”

I’m sorry, but it should be more common knowledge in our culture that Pregnancy & Childbirth is not a simple set of circumstances. They are complicated; sometimes ugly; often heartbreaking.

There’s a reason it’s called The Miracle of Childbirth.

Some people have it super duper easy and get pregnant without trying.

Well, we did the first time, I guess. And that baby is dead.

But since finally getting to a point where we feel comfortable thinking about it again, we’ve been ‘trying’ for a normal pregnancy for months now, and guess what, not only is it not as easy every time, but it’s STILL NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.

So, please, ask about my new haircut. That’s a little less invasive.

Stay out of my uterus unless you are my unborn child, and if you are reading this, you probably are not.


2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Katy
    Dec 24, 2014 @ 00:45:05

    I wrote something similar to this around mothers day this year. All I can say is….amen! 🙂



  2. dropslikestarsblog
    Dec 24, 2014 @ 03:16:45

    So true. It’s such a flippant thoughtless question, but so common. I believe people aren’t trying to offend. They’re just ignorant xx



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